Melanie: In your book The Lost Art of Healing you devote a chapter to “words that maim.” Do you still believe that’s true today — that the words doctors choose when talking with patients can actually do damage?
Grandpa: Not only do I believe words can hurt, but I have witnessed them to be lethal. You be the judge. It was early in my medical training and I was rounding with an attending physician who was managing a patient with a recent heart attack. The patient, a middle-aged male, was confined to strict bed rest, then the norm. He was restless, afflicted with numerous aches and was quite depressed after being hospitalized for several weeks. Forlornly he asked his physician. “Will I be home for Thanksgiving?” The doctor responded breezily that he “would be lucky to be home for Christmas.” No sooner were these words uttered, then the patient lost consciousness and experienced a cardiac arrest. He was resuscitated with difficulty but died the next day. Continue reading